Compare behaviors
Two behaviors side by side — what tells them apart.
Future Faker
Manipulation
A Future Faker keeps you invested with a story about what's coming — the trip, the move, the someday — that never arrives. The plans sound real and specific enough to hold onto, but they stall the moment they'd require follow-through. It's not forgetfulness. The imagined future is the product, and dangling it is how they keep you waiting instead of walking.
- Big plans — trips, moving in, the future — with no real dates
- Promises stall the moment they need follow-through
- Talks about "someday" far more than acting on today
- Reignites the future story right when you start to pull away
Gaslighter
Manipulation
A Gaslighter doesn't just lie — they rewrite history to protect themselves. They deny things that happened, flip the timeline, and make you feel irrational for reacting normally. Over time you start trusting their version more than your own memory, which is exactly the point. The goal isn't winning the argument. It's making you stop trusting yourself.
- Rewrites the timeline of what happened
- Denies what was said, even mid-argument
- Makes you doubt your own memory
- "You're overreacting" or "that's not what I meant"